What's your definition of a "goal"?
Is it something that has to be reached (such as "I'm going to lose 30 pounds!")? A skill you want to learn? Something else?
Hmmmm... another excellent question. To my thinking, a goal is losing 30 pounds, or learning a skill. It's not something lofty (I'm not into lofty, LOL!). To me doing laundry is something I do when I happen to see dirty clothes next to the washing machine - I don't wake up thinking I'll do laundry today. Thus the mounds of dirty clothes piled up in the laundry room. ;)
Here's an illustration of the mental stuff I go through with setting goals.
Back in 1980 or thereabouts, I had a great idea for a science fiction novel. The idea swam around in my head for a couple of weeks. So I sat down, mapped it out, and started writing chapter 1, which I finished.
But that was it. Somewhere in my mind was the thought (and it was so subtle, it usually all seems to pile on in a milisecond), "Why am I doing this? I can't finish it in one day, and by tomorrow, who knows? I may not like the story, or something will happen to stop me from continuing it [and it could be anything I want to do it stops, not just writing a story!]."
In that particular case, something did actually happen (major auto accident which had me bedridden for 2 months), but the point is, all this stuff goes firing around in my brain in a split second and shoots anything I want to accomplish into oblivion. A normal person would pick up where they left off - 2 months in bed? - on month 3 get up and start writing again, LOL!!!
I've tried to accomplish other things, like learn a language, had an idea for another non-fiction book, learn a new skill... The same thing happens EVERY time.
My two older brothers are in the same boat. They seem not to want to do anything about it in their own lives, but I'm tired of it. I've talked to more than one therapist about this and they don't seem to be able to address it or offer any suggestions on how to change my thinking.
Any suggestions you might have to offer, I'm open. :) And I appreciate your willingness to discuss this with me, too.